Running a Home
Laundry is a system, and most couples are running two of them
Washing clothes involves five separate stages and a dozen unspoken standards. Where the arguments actually occur, and why the pile…
Running a Home
Chores, standards and the invisible labour arguments start over.
21 articles · updated August 11, 2026 · page 2 of 2
Running a Home
Somebody has to notice the rice is running out, and that somebody is doing a job
Grocery shopping looks like one task and contains three: monitoring what is low, deciding what to buy, and carrying it home. Only…
Running a Home
The fix-it queue: what to repair, what to replace and who is chasing the landlord
Every household accumulates a list of things that do not quite work. Why that list grows, what determines whether a repair is worth…
Running a Home
Two people can fill any home in eighteen months
Clutter accumulates faster in a shared household than either person expects, and the thresholds for keeping things rarely match. A…
Running a Home
When home is also two offices, the house stops being neutral ground
Working from the same flat compresses a marriage into one set of rooms for twelve hours a day. What actually causes the friction…
Running a Home
Little and often against the Saturday blitz
Couples argue about who does the housework and rarely about when. Two legitimate rhythms, why mixing them badly produces the worst…
Running a Home
The errand load: queues, counters and the jobs that eat a Saturday
Some household tasks cannot be done from a sofa or an app, and they consume whole mornings. Where errands come from, why they…
Running a Home
The dog is not a shared hobby, it is a rota
Bringing an animal into a new marriage adds a dependant with a daily schedule. The work involved, how it divides in practice, and…
Running a Home
If one of you were away for a fortnight, could the other run the house?
Most households quietly become dependent on one person knowing where things are. A test for that dependency, and a short list of…